Competing with ourselves

Growing up our parents teach us to be competitive. I am sure like many others I played sports and thrived on winning, and being the best player out there. And if I wasn't I was disappointed.  But I often wonder if people never grow out of this stage in life. In fact I know people don't. Now that I am a mommy to two little girls I often wonder what road to take with them. Sometimes from the very beginning we are told what we should and shouldn't be doing with our children. So we are always questioning ourselves on raising our kids. Some people really go by the book and what stage  your baby is and why isn't mine at that stage or well mine has been doing that for a while now. Some times I find myself fighting itself about this. I am very proud of Jazlyn and how much she has grown within just the last six months. There is one moment where she is walking at store next to my buggy and tells a lady excuse me I just smiled so big and thought its sticking all this time and effort I have enforced her to have some manners its working.  But others moms may not think this is a big of deal as I did. Because there kids may have an entire vocabulary where Jaz is just now starting to talk more and more everyday. Each of our children are different in so many ways so I think we need to remember being competitive through our children may not be the right way to teach them. However some moms just don't get this, they thrive on being competitive with others. I say there is such as thing as teaching your children to much and forcing them to learn. Often I pick and choose my battles sometimes when Jaz is throwing a fit when she should get a spanking I just don't have the energy, now does this make me a bad mom. I mean what is a bad mom anyways. O because my kids don't eat what your kids eat for lunch or dinner. Nope I still don't feel like a bad mom. Yes I believe in spankings and timeouts and yes my 2 and half year old throws fits and is wild and crazy. Moms do the best they can and so passing judgement on other moms because your child simply knows more than others may not be the right thing to do. Moms are there own worst judges we do not need a line formed with other people holding up numbers to tell us how we are doing. Grow out of the competitive stage.. Let your children be children!!!